Friday, May 8, 2009

New Life and an intro on how it starts---


Look!!!! Look!!! Look!!!!
We have a nest in between my and my neighbors driveway. Shannon ( my neighbor) had to stand on top of a garbage can to get these pictures but LOOK!!
Aren't they cute? I can hear the chirping away whenever I go outside. How awesome. They are black with(obviously) yellow beaks.
Speaking of new life------lol
I got a letter in the mail yesterday afternoon from Mikey's school. It was handwritten so I got nervous. When does the school ever send home hand written notes??? When your kids' in trouble that's when.
My Mikey??? Never.
Gulp.
I opened it and read it.
Whew. My boy, just as I thought is still an angel.
They are going to have 2 days of Health and Human sexuality in class! They will use anatomically correct dolls to name parts of the body. The second day they will be learning about good touch/bad touch and what to do.
I'm all for the good touch/ bad touch thing. It's important and while I teach him as much as I can here about it, having his school do the same will help to drive the point home.
Here's where I want your opinion.........
Do you think Kindergarten is to young to start learning about sexuality???
My opinion is mixed. I don't think I actually learned about all this stuff-formally- till freshman year in high school.In health class. Part of me feels its too early, but part of me knows better.This generation is not the same as it was when most of us were growing up. There are 12 year olds who walk around pregnant now. In the letter, his teacher, Miss S., gave us the option for him not to participate. All she would need is a letter stating so.
I know a few parents who are not going to let their child participate. I however am NOT one of those parents.
Mikey is a smart kid and not a trouble maker,( no running around yelling names of parts at school and laughing) so I feel he will be benefiting from this class. He's almost in first grade. He is getting older and this class, I think will lay a good foundation of both of us to be able to communicate about S-E-X in the future. It does seem a bit early to me, but if the school feels he can handle an "introduction" then I will support that.
Have any of you dealt with this yet? Any advice or tips to help this scared-y mama? They would all be appreciated!!
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I don't have much else going on today! Its Friday(woohoo) and I feel like being "Betty Crocker" today!! I'm beginning to love baking bread. MMMM!!
What do you have planned for this Mother's Day weekend??
I have been invited by my buddy Selena over to her house for Mothers Day this year. Since the hubby is deployed they don't want me to have no celebration.( little do they know that I think just being with my kids is an amazing celebration of Mothers Day...its why I'm suppose to celebrate isn't it?? lol) They are going to make some yummy ribs on the grill and just hang out together. I'm looking forward to it. It will be a fun time I'm sure!
Anyways, have a great Friday and a great Mothers Day!!

7 comments:

Mrs. G.I Joe said...

Okay, so my oldest sister is a teacher over in Souel, Korea. She teaches a kindergarden class as well...Before I go on, I must say that I am totally up for this class with the youngsters seeing as, like you stated, this is a different generation then what we were used to and children ARE getting sexually active younger and younger these days...Moving on...Just a month ago my sis was having to attend A BUNCH of parent teacher conferences but only with the same two parents...Two days before December had gone to the girls bathroom one afternoon after noticing two of her students had been missing in that direction for a bit...When she entered the bathroom,you guessed it, there they were (a by and a girl) in a closed up stall...The boy had the girl up against the stall and was "touching" her private parts among other things....Kids need to know what is the right touch/ wrong touch so that they can fight and are not confused if, lord forbid, this ever happen to them away from an adult. In that sense both of those small children were victims...The way I understand it was that the boy had some of the (wrong touching) going on at home which triggered his actions with this little girl...So Yeah, needless to say, when this time rolls around for my future children, they will be taking this class as well as your's are...

Anonymous said...

I have to agree, it is young but this is new generation, very different from ours. Knowledge is power and it definately opens a door for you to talk with Mikey.

My kids didn't have it till 6th grade, but even then some parents said no. I wanted them to learn, and it definately helped them talk to me and my hubby about things.

I think you are making the right choice.

Take Care

Joanne

Sparkette said...

Oh my heavens on the last comment. Geez!

I agree with teaching our children. No need to shelter them from life!

Have a great Mother's day. I am going to spend mine with my kids and Neighbas. Waiting till next weekend to spend with the other half :)

Aubrey Anne said...

It really upsets me that we have to do this with our kids this young (I'm desperate to keep my kids little as long as possible!) but we HAVE to! So I agree with you, send him. He's a smart kid and opening up communication is necessary!! :)

MamaBear said...

I would ask for a copy of the lesson plan if it were me. I'd want to know exactly what they were going to be telling my child about sexuality so I could be 100% in agreement with the information. If things line up then send him to the class. If they don't, you can still send him to the class, but talk to him before hand and prepare him for what he's going to hear differently from what your family believes.

That's what I'm thinking at almost midnight while I fight a head cold. You know what's best for him. Trust your judgement and as hard as it is, don't let what the other parents are doing be your guide. Trust your heart.

NUGHT said...

daddy wasnt asked so im a little peeved by daddy will answer....

should 5-6 year olds be subjected to sexuality..

i think it depends on a few things... 1) on what level are they subjected... 2) what gender is your child 3) your assesment of your childs individual readiness...

1) good touch/ bad touch.... this across the board should be taught by parents to kids as soon as they start to understand english... then it should be reinforced thru out their childhood....

are far as body part identification... at this age if parents want to do that with their kids thats fine, but a classroom orientated block on who has what is unnecessicary... i think its counter productive.... introducing sexuality induces sexual curiosity.... once that snowball starts rolling, it doesnt stop...
the difference between our generation and the generations of the 40's and 50's is exposure.... kids back then werent exposed to sexuality until their early teens... because of this their sexuality wasnt realized until later in their teens.... exposing our kids at 5-6 gives our kids a huge head start towards sexual identity because their sexual curiosity is induced before they are naturally ready... this exposure is why our kids have babys at 13-14.... a kid exposed at age 5 to sexuality has 7 years to let that fester before he or she turns 12... that means your 12 year old have been shaping their sexuality and thinking about their own sexual identity for 7 years at this point... now a kid who is exposed at age 10 would be 17 if giving the same 7 years.... who do you think would be more inclined to experiment sexually in their early teens? the one exposed at age 5 or at age 10.

2) now, i really dont care if my wife wants my sons to have this class at age 5-6... they are boys... if one of my boys has sex when hes 14 i dont think i will lose my mind... i will talk to him about it but as long as he was smart about it and i can keep him thinking protection, then boys will be boys.... you cant stop a kids sexual experimenting... they will do it behind your back if you disapprove.... but if my girl has sex at 13-14 i would break her neck.... my daughter wont be going thru this class when shes 5-6... its a double standard but a very real aspect of our society.... theirs no way that anyone could convince me that a 5 year old girl needs to learn about the male anatomy in school... not my girl...

3) is mikey ready for something like this.... sure i think he could handle it... hes a smart and mature kid for his age... but again its not needed.... if my wife wants him to do it fine.... he will be alright.... hailey wont do this in kindagarden....

so back to the original question...
should 5-6 year olds be subjected to sexuality

no i dont think they SHOULD be... is it alright on a case by case basis... sure as long as its acompanied by good parenting...

am i the only one who thinks this way....

MRS Jen McNeil said...

just throwing it out there to EVERYONE...my husband doesnt actually mean he will break her neck.sheesh. no calls to the MPs needed..hahahaha.

hubby-i didnt ask you because i figure since u check my blog that it would be an atomatic answer. im sorry for not asking. i love hoe you think. it makes sense what your saying.......we can talk about it on IM later,love you and stay safe